Ready? Let's say it together. Those three little words are..."I like that."
Whether you are just exploring a new relationship or have been enjoying each other for years, there is always an opportunity to encourage your partner to touch you in a way that brings you pleasure. Exploring your likes and getting curious about what feels good can be exciting for both parties!
Start by guiding your partner's hands to the right place. Whether it's the first time or the hundredth, every woman's body is unique and the path to pleasure can change as time goes on as well! Guide their hands to the places that feel good and let them know "I like that" as thing progress. Using clear direction like “More,” “faster,” “slower,” and “harder” can help guide the process exactly where you want it and give both you and your partner the confidence and exhilaration of pleasing each other from beginning to end.
As Dr. Mintz will tell you in her book Becoming Cliterate, about "while 95 percent of women need clitoral stimulation to orgasm, either alone or paired with penetration, just what type of stimulation each women needs is unique, as every woman’s genital nerves are positioned a bit differently." Investing the time to help your partner speak your body language is well worth the effort on both parties for a deeply satisfying sensual experience.
Positive Reinforcement Is Sexy
While giving direction, focus on positive reinforcement. Nothing can ruin a mood faster than telling them something doesn't feel good or isn't what you want. If your partner starts heading in the "wrong" direction, keep your language in the right direction.
"I really liked it when you were doing ____ can you do that again?"
"It was so sexy when you ____"
"I love it when you ____"
If sweet talk isn't cutting it, get a little physical with it! Guiding their hand, moving your hips, moaning responsively, or taking charge by changing the position yourself can all positively influence the direction you want to take things.
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