Three Little Words To Transform Your Love Life

Three little words to transform your love life

Can you guess what three little words we're talking about?

We're going to take it Derulo style and talk dirty to you. But the dirty talk doesn't need to be as dirty as you think. In fact, communicating your desires in bed can actually be pretty G rated with this three little words that will go further than any dirty talk will.

Most partners genuinely want to give women pleasure, but are often at a loss for just how to do so, says Laurie Mintz, Ph.D at Psychology Today. 

So what's with the pleasure gap? Studies have shown that almost 60% of women fake orgasm because they wanted their partner to feel successful. What this shows is there is a big opportunity to encourage better sexual communication across the board so women can enjoy the big benefits of orgasm for everyone's sake!

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Ready? Let's say it together. Those three little words are..."I like that."

Whether you are just exploring a new relationship or have been enjoying each other for years, there is always an opportunity to encourage your partner to touch you in a way that brings you pleasure. Exploring your likes and getting curious about what feels good can be exciting for both parties!

Start by guiding your partner's hands to the right place. Whether it's the first time or the hundredth, every woman's body is unique and the path to pleasure can change as time goes on as well! Guide their hands to the places that feel good and let them know "I like that" as thing progress. Using clear direction like “More,” “faster,” “slower,” and “harder” can help guide the process exactly where you want it and give both you and your partner the confidence and exhilaration of pleasing each other from beginning to end.

As Dr. Mintz will tell you in her book Becoming Cliterate, about "while 95 percent of women need clitoral stimulation to orgasm, either alone or paired with penetration, just what type of stimulation each women needs is unique, as every woman’s genital nerves are positioned a bit differently." Investing the time to help your partner speak your body language is well worth the effort on both parties for a deeply satisfying sensual experience.

Positive Reinforcement Is Sexy

While giving direction, focus on positive reinforcement. Nothing can ruin a mood faster than telling them something doesn't feel good or isn't what you want. If your partner starts heading in the "wrong" direction, keep your language in the right direction.

"I really liked it when you were doing ____ can you do that again?"

"It was so sexy when you ____"

"I love it when you ____"

If sweet talk isn't cutting it, get a little physical with it! Guiding their hand, moving your hips, moaning responsively, or taking charge by changing the position yourself can all positively influence the direction you want to take things.

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  1. Drew on January 18, 2023 at 1:50 pm

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